There’s enough grief!

Those moments when someone mentions, even just, bread.

I went with my grandma every week to get fresh baked bread, 20+ miles away: smelling it in the truck, learning patience, all the way home until we arrived . She got out her, obviously used, serrated knife and cut the soft loaf, spread the creamy butter and made me a house. I can still hear the sound of the knife hitting the countertop at each tap. She cut a door, an octagon window in the top, a square window in the side and then I would eat it-piece by piece and I did this over and over and over and over for as long as I can remember as a child.

Grief shows up in ways we’re not ready for at times.

Grief shows up because memories are intwined and connected with our world and intended to change us and challenge us.

In my opinion, grief is meant to be felt.

When it is felt, it is released.

When it is felt, it is healed, just a little bit more.

None of us want to feel that pain nor remember that grief, but what we need to remember is that there is good and bad in grief.

Grief emphatically holds so much more blessing that it does pain, if we’re willing to see it.

Grief, any which way, is absolutely the deepest loss but exactly why there’s always more good that we are now able to see that we were blinded to until that pain entered and our eyes were opened.

That, to me, is what grief is about.

We are all human. We were created in His image and I believe that when we’re willing to enter into that space and find and remember those moments of absolute safety, we can find peace with our soul despite the unfairness.

We can find healing, despite the pain and loss, and that’s where we start to heal and the more we do it, the more we remember the good and let go of the pain.

During this holiday season I hope we can all focus on the good that we’ve had and the good that we’re experiencing and the good that we are going to experience despite the pain and losses that we have endured!