Acting as cousins, pain and harm remain, yet, a huge chasm exists.

Pain alone can not do damage.

While hurt can cause pain, it can be the best teacher.

Pain always and eventually heals on its own.

Harm, requires an undoing, a labor.

Like grief, for example. It can cause pain and hurt like hell, without an actual ‘someone’ causing harm to us.

Choosing to not confuse the two can have an immense effect in our lives.

Choosing to see the things that were not meant to harm and truly, have not harmed us, can make all the difference in how we respond or process.

*Truth spoken in love may hurt, but it does not harm.

It’s actually ok, if not good for us to experience a little discomfort.

And the most true thing I’ve ever known/experienced, is that…

*PAIN IS THE ONLY THING THAT EVER MOVES US FROM THE PLACES WE NEED TO MOVE*

So instead of immediately assigning harm to our interactions, what if we look at things differently, particularly when that pain is ignited?

What if we can all see and move into a different mindset when we feel that instantaneous jab?

It is certainly, not often, intentional, statistically speaking, or valid, to assume that the hurt or pain we are feeling is intentional or harmful.

However, wisdom is knowing the difference of when we are in pain and when we are actually being harmed.

(More on ‘being harmed’ in a later post.)

For now, may we all be more aware and sensitive to the differences of hurt vs harm and our own role in it’s reality; both certainly and unequivocally matter, but I believe that the former is much more common and significantly due to our unfortunate selfish nature.

Do not let harm masquerade as hurt but also do not let hurt masquerade as harm. ❤️

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