I was thinking a lot today about being thankful and thinking from a different angle and what I thought was, “what if there was an absence of red in this picture?”

Do we think about what we actually have present and would it be good to think about not having that? What would that look like?

Stick with me here.

There are times we all need to let go, so don’t get me wrong!

However, I’m tired of good guys getting bad raps.

Guys get so much pressure on them in this society, to do it all and have zero flaws.

I’m not taking about what he does ‘for all to see.’

I could care less about performance.

But what is he made of?

What is he doing when no one is looking?

Men are not here to make us happy or fulfill our childhood Disney fantasies.

Believe me, I’ve been there.

Many of us woman have dumped a heavy load onto men that they are not designed to carry.

We are just as guilty of sucking the life out of them to fulfill our unmet needs.

We are individuals, created to live in this world the best we can.

Yes, if you’re married, you have an assignment. A big one that requires effort.

But please look into the mirror first.

Unfortunately we often have some deep needs that we have often not yet been willing to face.

So many of us want the benefits without the work involved.

Major props to the single women who don’t man bash.

It’s not easy, because blaming, manipulating, accusing, grasping, and self victimization comes easy when we don’t want to work on ourselves.

It leads to an emptiness that loneliness doesn’t even know.

I believe, if we were all willing to work on ourselves first there would be a lot less dissension and much more abundance!

-to the married women doing this well! You’ve got my vote! Those of you living your own life in abundance while loving with an unconditional love that requires strength, forethought, confidence and character. Don’t lose that! We all need your example!

But most importantly, married or not, get your cup filled through the only One that knows you intimately. The only one who is solid and constant. Nothing in this world should we place our hope in, besides the Creator. Not money, not intelligence, not education, not a relationship of any kind, not a leader of any type, not a job, not even yourself.

Now go fill yourself with everything present and be abundantly thankful!