I was challenged today on my singleness.

I understand I might turn some people off or this could possibly be viewed the way I’m not meaning it to. I do believe neither are wrong. I think maybe we’ve gotten off track a bit.

Although Paul boasts in his singleness, he was given a particular calling in that. And for anyone feeling that call, I would never argue that! Even though, I do believe being called to singleness is more uncommon/rare, if you will.

Being single for several years now, I started to get very comfortable in my world. It was easy to see and say to myself how difficult marriage would be. It was easy to join the singles think-tank, the man-bashing clubs, or the “find yourself” directive.

Yes, as a single, I have luxuries that married ppl do not.

I can do what I want, when I want, w/o having to consider anyone else.

I can eat what I want and when I want.

I can shut out the world if I really desire to.

I can make decisions and spend money on things that only matter to me or my loved ones.

Conversely there are A LOT of things that married people have the luxury of: shared duties, experiences, incomes, companionship, and… yeah, ya know 😉

All that to say,

what I believe, is that God made us for relationship.

His design started with marriage.

Marriage takes incredible sacrifice.

It takes thinking about someone else in every decision you make and that’s not easy.

It takes great humility , large amounts of trust, and embracing trials!

(Disclaimer- never should you ever stay in a marriage where you’re being abused in any way.)

However, marriage was designed for this world. It was designed to exemplify His nature. To show self-sacrifice and reliance on His character.

I believe that too many singles have gotten comfortable or simply not been able to see the value in giving and serving another..

It’s ok. Maybe we have never experienced first hand the way two people can find the joy in sacrificing for one another, despite the difficulties life can bring. Or possibly we have never experienced the joys of being on the receiving end.

To wrap up,

I believe God ordained marriage to showcase His unconditional love to the world and I hope that one day He will bless me with that platform. I’m confident I will not do it well, but I’d love to be given that chance. I’m enthralled with the marriages I’ve seen that fight for this. You are heroes. Your daily strivings are not in vain. Keep on, the best you can! And for singles, no matter your circumstances, please consider the fullness that awaits you! Don’t lose hope and press on with full assurance!

Heaven was made for the all the things we hope for, all the days w/no trials or tears or efforts. This world is not our home but one day, we will be able to let all this go and find complete overwhelming peace and joy without a care, without having to struggle or strive for anything! We will be completely satisfied!

But until then, we are here for one purpose,

one purpose only,

to glorify Him.

Whatever that looks like for each of us.